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As the month of March comes to an end, also known as, Women’s History Month, or what I like to say, Women’s HERstory Month, I must acknowledge my hardworking women and girls for always staying on top of their grind. In the words of Queen Bey, ” I Dream it. I work hard. I grind ’til I own it” and that is exactly what women have been doing and will continue to do. I always knew my entire life I was going to be my own boss and it’s so refreshing to see other women and girls making the rules instead of following them. Being a boss babe doesn’t mean you’re a money hungry B&t%h, it means you are breaking the societal norm of being domesticated and paving the way for a new normal. It can sometimes be threatening to other women and men seeing a woman or girl in power, but to me being brilliant, beautiful, and a boss is the real deal. When rappers like Drake start rapping about boss ladies throwing their men a prenup, you know times have changed. Even though women are picking up their paychecks and hiring a manny (a male nanny, lol!), women and girls still have to grind a little harder than a man.

1. WHEN WOMEN EMBRACE EACH OTHER, INCREDIBLE THINGS HAPPEN

  • As women, we shouldn’t feel that we need to compete with each other or search for satisfaction from a man. When women are able to put drama aside and realize that fighting for something has a greater impact than fighting each other, bonds and businesses begin to form.

2. DISCIPLINE, DISCIPLINE, DISCIPLINE

  • Every girl has been told “act like a lady” or ” be more lady-like”, because their legs weren’t crossed or they were”acting like a boy”. When women start making it to big league businesses that are run by established white men, women who are dominating will most likely be told to stay in her lane or once again “act like a lady”. Even as emotional creatures, women still have the ability to fight back with self-discipline. People are always going to tell women what they can’t do, that’s why women are able to show what they can do.

3. NO MEANS YES

  • Often times women are told the word, NO, because of the stereotypes that are attached to being a woman. Women cannot accept “NO” as an answer. No only means work harder and prove them wrong.

4. I AM A WOMEN/GIRL and I AM….. Black,Latina, Muslim, etc. 

  • Being a girl is hard, but when being a Black girl, Latina girl, Muslim girl, or whatever you are, things can be harder. Even though race and gender shouldn’t matter, it does, and it can have an affect on finances, status, and  businesses. As women of all races and backgrounds, we must unite each other and uplift the diversity of all women. Let’s get in formation!

5. DON’T PLAY, just SLAYYYYYYYYYYYY!

  • For women and girls, the grind never stops, and that is okay because women are going to work hard and grind ’til they own it. More women are becoming CEO’s, entrepreneurs,  doctors, and accountants, proving that women do have control over their own lives and fortune 500 companies. Women didn’t come to play, they came to SLAY!

 

Photos taken by : John Carlo (Instagram)

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We all have different types of facial expressions that express a sense of emotion. I remember going through my teenage years and my mother told me that I had a “stank face”. I really didn’t understand what she meant, until she said my facial expression looks like I just smelled poop. I ignored her every time she reminded me I had this “stank face” on, but then I was talking to this cute guy and he said “don’t make that face, it looks like you just smelled $h*t.” In that moment, I was so mad because I couldn’t believe my mother was right and I was mad at myself for not listening to her. Like mothers always say ” you just had to learn the hard way.”

I know that I am the type of individual that wears my heart on my sleeve. Sometimes it’s so hard for me to not show my emotions, but after a few life lessons, I’v learned that I have control over my emotions. We don’t have control over how others feel, but we definitely have control over ourselves. We as individuals have the power to control how we feel. I remind myself everyday that happiness is a way of life and not a destination. I choose not to surround myself with negative energy because the best thing unhappy people are good at is making other people unhappy. It takes so much energy to be upset over something you have no control over. In situations when we are mad, we are so quick to REACT instead of RESPOND. When we are upset or when someone throws us a low blow, we can’t just react with more negativity, because it won’t solve anything. Sometimes we have to kill them with kindness. I know if someone chooses to have a negative attitude towards me or around me, I have the power to use my positivity to throw them off. If you know you can’t use your positive force, just walk away from it all. Nothing is worth making you come out of your character, because that one moment where you do choose to get out of character, can have a long term affect on how people view you and most importantly how you view yourself.

At the end of the day, we are all humans. We get sad, annoyed, angry, vexed, worried but those shouldn’t be emotions that you feel often. We should express and feel emotions of excitement, laughter, joy, happiness, and bliss throughout our daily life. We aren’t always jolly 24/7, but the most important thing is to have happiness as our core. I try to smile as much as possible because it makes me feel good about myself and smiling contagious. In the words of the late and great Bob Marley, ” Love the life you live and live the life you love.”

Peace and Love,

Ivy Coco