T-Shirt: Victoria Secret
I don’t know about anyone else, but I was definitely a huge tomboy growing up. I grew up with my brother, who is three years older than me, but age has never separated us. He exposed me to sports, 50 Cent’s Get Rich or Die Trying album, what men think about women/girls, and the importance of a men’s tailored suit. I have always had a deep admiration for the way my brother found beauty in almost everything, his personable character, and the way he dressed. Together we are each others partner in crime (especially in middle school and high school, lol).
Our mother loved buying us the new and hip clothing and shoes for kids in the late 1990’s and early 2000’s. Our mother loves random shopping sprees, and one day she came home with a pair of Nike Air Force 1 styled shoes, with the face of the famous west coast gangsta rapper Tupac Shakur all over. I was very jealous because the shoes were for him, and I wanted to match with him. I always loved his fashion sense, even when he was inspired by gangsta rappers that wore basketball jersey’s as shirts and sweatbands as accessories. Those Tupac shoes really made me realize that my brother’s male style impacted my feminine style.
My masculine sense of fashion continued as I played basketball in middle school and high school. I always tried my hardest to bring my “A” on and off the court. I made sure every time I hit the court I was at my best when my best was needed, and I felt my best was needed at all times. I made sure I had the flyest ponytail, but the sickest rebounds. I have grown to love the sport of basketball and the fashion around it that I implement it in my life daily.
I grew up playing so many different sports, but my favorite and the one I was most dedicated to was basketball. I loved the pace of the game, one minute we could be down 10 points with 2 minutes left, and the next thing you know someone hits the last shot to send the game into overtime. Sports taught me life qualities: timing, passion, faith and teamwork.
- I’ve learned the difference between emotions and passion. Passion is created with emotion. Emotions can be very difficult to control, especially on the battlefield of sports and even on a bigger spectrum; life. Don’t let your negative emotions overcast your passion, because it can limit you from success.
- My greatest friendships developed from playing sports. The camaraderie with my teammates taught me that success can not be achieved by just one person. We count on our friends, family, and teammates for support. To fulfill your passions, we must allow ourselves as social creatures to use the guidance and support that surrounds us.
- Lastly, one failure does not determine your destiny. If I missed my free throw, or screwed up on a fast break coming down the court, I remember my coach yelling “get back on D, get the next rebound!”. My coach reminded me I was always in control to potentially have power over the next big play. My countless failures are my learning lessons that push me forward.
Still today, I have a very masculine twist to my style and I’m still not afraid to pick up a basketball and be a little rough around the edges. I appreciate the many moments that I’ve shared with my brother learning about male style. That little tomboy has definitely developed into a stylish young lady always trying to bring her “A” game at all times, because you never know when you have to be ready for a little one on one.
IvyCoco(aka Kobe, just kidding lol).
Photos by Mick: IG @_soulfull