Sunglasses: Dior

Shirt: H&M

Backpack: Zara

Belt: Vintage

Jeans: Asos.com

Boots: Topshop.com

   Lately, I feel it’s the Baby Boom all over again. Meaning, so many of my friends and family members are having babies. I love babies, they are so beautiful that they have the magic ability to change peoples perspective on life. They grow unseen and already you are deeply in love with them! And when they are born, you’d die for them.  That’s magic.

  I remember when my youngest cousin was born and in a blink of an eye he was walking, talking, growing teeth yelling “NOOOO!!!!”. His growth has been so rapid but an amazing journey for me to watch. I pay close attention to how he responds to people, how he talks, and how he walks. Walking was my cousin’s first step into independence, he might not know that, but I do. He used balance, control, and strength to take his first step, which are real life skills.

    In life, we are always wanting to start something new and fresh, but sometimes taking the first step is the hardest. Sometimes we are afraid to fail, scared to see the challenges we might be faced with, and in the back of our head we have that little voice asking ” Is it really worth it ? “. When that little voice starts, you have to tell yourself “Hell YEAH! its worth it”. Do not be afraid of the obstacles you might face in your journey because it’s only a test. If you are starting a new business venture, setting a new goal, or just wanting to press restart on life, it’s so important to remember a few things when taking the first step:

  1. DON’T WAIT– Whatever you choose to start, make sure you are passionate about it, but do not wait until the “perfect time”. Waiting turns into procrastination and it postpones you from making things happen. Not everything is going to be perfect because you’re always thinking and changing. Your thoughts from yesterday might differ from today, so that “perfect time” can only happen when you tell yourself it will happen.

2. AGREE WITH YOURSELF– Everyone is not going to be in agreement with what you are doing. People with always disagree with your movement, but make sure you are in agreement with yourself. If you are waiting to come to a consensus with others, that means your oppositions and opposers are having control over you.

3. HAVE A GREAT ATTITUDE– Make sure whatever you are doing makes you happy. Even when hard times come your way, you have to stay positive. If you’re happy doing what you love, then it is worth fighting for. Positivity will carry you through your challenges.

Now that I have seen my baby cousin take his first step, he is in cruise control. He hops from A to B like its nothing. He can shuffle, climb, and run with ease, all because he was strong enough to take that first step. I’m pretty sure he fell a few times and will fall some more, but my little man shows me his independence by getting back up again. He has the ability to take my hand and take me on a run.

That first step followed promptly by a fall, boosted his confidence in being able to connect with people and try again. Don’t be afraid to take that 1st step, because once you actually do it, you’ll realize that the little voice in the back of your head will start to say ” You got this! That wasn’t too bad “.

Xoxo,

IvyCoco

Photos taken by Erick Robinson: IG @imerickrobinson

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Bob Marley Blouse and Pants: Ivy Ralph Designs (based in Jamaica)

Boxer: Under Exposed briefs

Glasses: Dior

Let’s be honest, one of the greatest musical performers was Mr. Bob Marley himself. He didn’t just make you feel musically, but he impacted hearts with his words of wisdom. My outfit is truly inspired by Marley, colorful, comfortable, and something that will never go out of style. My grandmother, Ivy Ralph, a Jamaican designer, hand crafted this two piece outfit for my grandfather. She pieced fabrics together so my grandfather could understand and feel the essence of Jamaican culture. My grandfather, a man of American southern heritage, learned to love the culture of Jamaica through my grandmothers island designs. Jamaica was his place of escape, while wearing khaki colored shorts, topped with a simple loose top designed by my grandmother, he used to sit on his porch and be honest with himself while he enjoyed the Jamaican breeze. The perfect songs that allowed him to enjoy his space, were the songs of Bob Marley. One of Marley’s greatest quotes and my personal favorite is:

“Open your eyes, look within.
Are you satisfied with the life you’re living?”
 When you wake up every day, you determine your destiny. When you wake up every day, are you LIVING or are you EXISTING? Determining your destiny comes from being honest with yourself. When people are not honest with themselves they are unhappy and misery loves company. One thing that unhappy people are good at is making other people unhappy. Why be unhappy when God (or the God of your belief), woke you up this morning, for you to see another beautiful day. BE HONEST with yourself, if you are not fulfilling what you believe is your destiny, then fix it. We are given time to reflect, change, and make new. If you are itching for a fixing, then do it. Do not live for anyone but yourself, live the life that you love. Being honest with yourself is not just telling yourself that you need to change or that you are beautiful, it is about believing in your change, believing in your growth, believing in your beauty, and believing in your self love. Too many people are walking around this world simply existing, because they are not honest with themselves. They are living for someone else and they aren’t addressing the things that can/need to be altered. Always know that in the end you know yourself best. Don’t depend on somebody else’s love, money, or support, because when you are honest with yourself, no one can interfere with your vision.
xoxo,
 Ivy Coco
Photos taken by Mick Reed IG: @_soulfull
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